我是农历3月21晚上零点左右出生的，从我开始接触到星座这个东西开始，我就用农历生日去算出自己是一个白羊座。这之后看所有的占星类的书、文章，我都觉得：“哇，这个性格和我真像”。有关注过占星学的人都大概知道白羊座的性格是“外向、脾气暴躁、乐观、做事不太过脑子”等等。
后来我才知道，原来星座是西方人发明的，人家是根据公历来算的，按照我出身那年的日期一换算，我原来是金牛座。于是我做了十几年的白羊座，摇身一变成了金牛座。
占星学说金牛座是土象星座，典型特点是更注重物质，也更容易不满，另外还带有类似“稳重、慎重”等等的关键词，这让做了十几年白羊座的我觉得不可思议，这些描述和我差得太远了。我依然是那个不够稳重、外向、直接、过于坦率的白羊座性格。
这是为什么呢？
一般来说，占星术（包括其它的如笔迹性格测试、血型看性格、九型人格等等）都是比较含糊的，会用一些共性的描述，另外更多地用上一些正面的评价，因为大部分人都宁愿相信自己是一个更证明、更积极的人，所以只要对应星座里有关于自己乐意看到的描述，不由自主的认为准。
对星座学的怀疑，让我开始对人生有了更多的认识。恰好去年我去上了一个课程，名字听起来很牛逼，叫《领袖素质管理》，讲了很多东西，我自己总结课程的核心在于让你知道活着可以为这个世界做更多，你可以做得更多做得更好。和所有的成功学一样，都在引导受众去自我暗示，要你相信自己，对自己更多的正面评价，更勇于去抓住机会。“你觉得你是什么样的人，你就是”。
我总结，性格并非是天生和不可改变的，性格都是在自我暗示中形成的，比如最近我们在很热衷地研究九型人格，初学者会饶有兴致地给自己（或者他人）划定一个性格，并进行点评。随着再进一步深入的了解会发现，九型人格的意义在于先测出你现在的性格特征，然后引导你去往更积极、乐观的方向去，加强自我暗示。
《怪诞心理学》研究人为什么幸运，通过实验发现，幸运的人通常是那些乐观开朗，而且充满活力的人，他们更容易接受新的机遇和经验。而不幸的人通常比较孤僻、反应不够敏捷、对人生充满不安感，不懂得去利用摆在眼前的机会。
所以，我的结论是你的人生和什么出生日期、血型、星座、属相等等完全无关，有关的只是你想要什么样的人生，并且是不是以积极乐观的态度去面对。如果你的星座分析或者九型人格等在给你正面的暗示（即使是微博里那些胡说八道如“12星座谁会是最好的妻子”之类），那你就去相信吧，并且让自己真正成为那样的人，如果在给你负面的暗示，那赶紧忘掉它当作没看到。
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Reading this in three sittings because the day was fragmented, and the piece survived the fragmentation, and a stop at ieeb held up under similar reading conditions, content engineered for continuous attention is fragile in modern conditions and this site reads as durable across the realistic ways people consume content today.
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High quality writing, no marketing speak and no buzzwords that mean nothing, and a stop at qorivobonding kept that going, simple direct content that actually communicates something is harder to find than it should be and this is one of the rare places that gets it right consistently across many different posts.
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A piece that did not require external context to follow, and a look at macofficelovesyou maintained the same self contained quality, content that stands alone without forcing readers to chase prerequisites is more accessible and this site has clearly thought about how each piece can serve a fresh visitor rather than only existing members.
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