我是农历3月21晚上零点左右出生的，从我开始接触到星座这个东西开始，我就用农历生日去算出自己是一个白羊座。这之后看所有的占星类的书、文章，我都觉得：“哇，这个性格和我真像”。有关注过占星学的人都大概知道白羊座的性格是“外向、脾气暴躁、乐观、做事不太过脑子”等等。
后来我才知道，原来星座是西方人发明的，人家是根据公历来算的，按照我出身那年的日期一换算，我原来是金牛座。于是我做了十几年的白羊座，摇身一变成了金牛座。
占星学说金牛座是土象星座，典型特点是更注重物质，也更容易不满，另外还带有类似“稳重、慎重”等等的关键词，这让做了十几年白羊座的我觉得不可思议，这些描述和我差得太远了。我依然是那个不够稳重、外向、直接、过于坦率的白羊座性格。
这是为什么呢？
一般来说，占星术（包括其它的如笔迹性格测试、血型看性格、九型人格等等）都是比较含糊的，会用一些共性的描述，另外更多地用上一些正面的评价，因为大部分人都宁愿相信自己是一个更证明、更积极的人，所以只要对应星座里有关于自己乐意看到的描述，不由自主的认为准。
对星座学的怀疑，让我开始对人生有了更多的认识。恰好去年我去上了一个课程，名字听起来很牛逼，叫《领袖素质管理》，讲了很多东西，我自己总结课程的核心在于让你知道活着可以为这个世界做更多，你可以做得更多做得更好。和所有的成功学一样，都在引导受众去自我暗示，要你相信自己，对自己更多的正面评价，更勇于去抓住机会。“你觉得你是什么样的人，你就是”。
我总结，性格并非是天生和不可改变的，性格都是在自我暗示中形成的，比如最近我们在很热衷地研究九型人格，初学者会饶有兴致地给自己（或者他人）划定一个性格，并进行点评。随着再进一步深入的了解会发现，九型人格的意义在于先测出你现在的性格特征，然后引导你去往更积极、乐观的方向去，加强自我暗示。
《怪诞心理学》研究人为什么幸运，通过实验发现，幸运的人通常是那些乐观开朗，而且充满活力的人，他们更容易接受新的机遇和经验。而不幸的人通常比较孤僻、反应不够敏捷、对人生充满不安感，不懂得去利用摆在眼前的机会。
所以，我的结论是你的人生和什么出生日期、血型、星座、属相等等完全无关，有关的只是你想要什么样的人生，并且是不是以积极乐观的态度去面对。如果你的星座分析或者九型人格等在给你正面的暗示（即使是微博里那些胡说八道如“12星座谁会是最好的妻子”之类），那你就去相信吧，并且让自己真正成为那样的人，如果在给你负面的暗示，那赶紧忘掉它当作没看到。
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